Aftin Jolly
Counselling
Hi, nice to e-meet you! I help couples move from disconnection and frustration to genuine understanding and renewed intimacy. If you’re here, you’re might be wondering whether things can actually get better. They can – and I’d love to show you how. I specialize in and am passionate about couples therapy because I believe relationships are worth fighting for.
Here’s what guides my work:
- Love is a choice, not just a feeling - it requires intention, especially when things feel hard.
- You are whole, even when your relationship feels broken. My role is to help you reconnect with that wholeness in yourself and each other.
- Growth happens through honesty - with yourself, your partner and the relationship you’re building together.
My practice is grounded in authenticity, awareness, accountability, and collaboration. I want couples to know that I have a deep respect and understanding that relationships are both beautiful and messy.
My Training & Credentials:
- Masters in Counselling, Gonzaga University
- Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Level 2 Trained
- Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC#24138) with BCACC
In addition, I am deeply inspired by Esther Perel’s work on desire, intimacy, and helping couples navigate the tension between security and passion. Also, I utilize Gestalt therapy techniques, which help couples become more aware of how they communicate and relate in the present moment - noticing patterns, emotions, and blocks as they happen so we can work through them together in real time.
A Little More About Me:
I love to spend time in water, though I am not a swimmer I am more of a sit on a floatie or hot spring soaker. I am a big fan of sushi, and I swear that an icy cold A&W root beer can always make my day better. I also work with horses and am a Certified Equine Assisted Learning Facilitator where I help people learn social skills with the help of horses. I look forward to connecting with you.
Why I Understand Relationships
I've witnessed the beauty and complexity of love in every form. I've seen how seemingly small misunderstandings create distance, how unspoken needs build resentment, and how vulnerability and small shifts can create profound change. I also know that seeking therapy is brave, and I honour that courage in every session.
What Makes My Approach Different
Every relationship is unique. I blend evidence-based strategies with a warm, human approach that is honest, transparent, and rooted in mindfulness and present-moment work.
I'm trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy - research-backed techniques that help couples break destructive patterns and rebuild connection. I also draw from Gestalt therapy and the work of Esther Perel on intimacy and desire. But what does this really mean for you as a couple:
We work with what's happening right now. Together, we pay attention to what's unfolding between you in session - the tone, the pauses, what's being said, and what isn't being said. This helps you gain clarity and practice new ways of connecting in real time.
You'll get practical tools you can use the same day - like how to slow down a heated conversation, repair after conflict, or express what you need without blame.
You won't feel like you're under a microscope. I create a space where both partners feel safe to be honest, vulnerable, and heard - without judgement or taking sides.
Support for Your Relationship Starts Here
You've already shown up for your relationship by being right here. What's your next move?
Easily book an appointment through the online booking page. If you have questions, simply send me an email to connect@aftinjollycounselling.com. Or you can learn more through my FAQs page.
