Understanding the Power of Couples Counselling
Get Ready to Transform Your Relationship
Maybe you've tried talking it through on your own, read the books, or promised each other things would change. Couples counselling offers something different: a structured space where both of you are truly seen, heard, and understood, with proven tools to create lasting change.
Couples counselling isn’t about “fixing” one person - it’s about rediscovering yourselves as a team.
Imagine a relationship where conflict feels manageable, intimacy and friendship thrive, and everyday stresses don’t pull you apart. Couples therapy gives you practical tools to navigate challenges, strengthen trust, and build a partnership that feels resilient, joyful, and deeply connected. This isn't abstract theory - it's real life relationship help that moves you from tension to connection, from uncertainty to hope.
Is Couples Counselling Right for You?
Every Relationship Has Its Own Story
Couples counselling can help at any stage of a relationship. You might be here because:
- You're considering couples therapy for the first time and wondering it it's too early (or too late)
- You're tried therapy before but didn't get the results you hoped for
- One of you is more motivated than the other - thats okay, we'll work with that
- You're wondering whether separation or staying together makes sense
- You love each other but don't like each other right now - and want to change that
I work with all kinds of couples: from long term partnerships, to engaged couples, to newlyweds, to LGBTQ2SIA+ couples, to married couples, to intercultural and interfaith couples, to senior couples, and much more! What matters most is that you're both willing to show up and do the work.
Wherever you're starting from, I meet you there with curiousity, respect, and no judgement.
My Approach
Why This Approach Works When Others Haven't
Many couples understand what isn't working - they can even describe their patterns perfectly. But knowing what's wrong and being able to change it in the heat of the moment are two completely different things. My approach is designed to bridge that gap.
I combine the structure and research of the Gottman Method with the depth and present-moment focus of Gestalt Therapy to help couples not only learn new skills, but actually experience their relationship differently.
Using Gottman-based couples counselling, one of the most researched and effective approaches available - we strengthen the core of your relationship by building emotional friendship, deepening understanding through love mapping, and developing clear, respectful conflict resolution skills. This creates a stable foundation for long-term connection.
Gestalt therapy adds what’s often missing: mindfulness and awareness in real time. Instead of only talking about patterns, we slow things down and notice what’s happening between you as it unfolds - so you can practice responding with more intention, honesty, and care.
This integrated approach helps couples move out of stuck cycles and into more connected, responsive, and meaningful relationships - using tools that work in everyday life, not just in session.
What To Expect in Couples Counselling
Couples counselling is a collaborative, supportive process where both partners have space to be heard. Here's how couples sessions work.
Session 1: Together
Your first session is for both partners. We focus on getting a full picture of your relationship - your history, strengths, challenges, and goals. This is a safe, structured space to share openly and understand each other’s perspective. Many couples share they feel relief just from this first session because finally someone is holding space for both your experiences.
Session 2: Individually
In the second session, each partner meets with me separately. This confidential time allows each person to share their story, concerns, hopes without worrying about their partner's reaction. It helps me understand you both as individuals, not just as a couple.
Additionally, there may be times throughout therapy where an individual session is needed for one or both partners, this will be clearly and openly discussed with the couple as it arises.
Session 3 and Beyond: Together
From the third session onward, we come together as a couple. We focus on practical tools, strategies, and work tailored to your relationship - strengthening communication, navigating conflict, enhancing intimacy, and building a deeper connection that feels sustainable in real life, not just in the therapy room.
Couples seek counselling for many reasons and thats very normal. Below are some of the areas we can work on together - you might see yourself in one, several, or all of these.
Communication & ConnectionÂ
- Breaking cycles of criticism, defensiveness, or shutting down
- Feeling heard and actually understanding each other
- Reconnecting when you feel more like roommates than partners
Trust & Repair
- Healing after infidelity, betrayal, or broken promises
- Rebuilding emotional safety after ruptures
- Learning to repair and move forward, not stay stuck in the past
Intimacy & Desire
- Navigating mismatched libidos or changes in physical intimacy
- Rekindling emotional closeness and feeling desired again
- Understanding how security and passion can coexist
Conflict & Patterns
- Managing arguments without escalation or withdrawal
- Breaking patterns that keep you stuck in the same fights
- Finding respectful ways to disagree and work through differences
Life Transitions & Stress
- Reconnecting after having kids or adjusting to empty nest
- Supporting each other through career changes, loss, or health challenges
- Navigating different expectations around roles and responsibilities
Relationship Foundations
- Pre-marital counselling and building a strong start together
- Clarifying shared goals, values, and vision for the future
- Strengthening friendship, teamwork, and partnership
Complex Dynamics
- Co-parenting, blended families, and navigating parenting differences
- Integrating cultural, spiritual, or personal values
- Understanding attachment styles and love languages
- Deciding whether to stay together or separate with clarity and care
Every session is tailored to your relationship and what matters most to you.
Initial couples sessions and ongoing sessions are 80 minutes (they cost $183) and individual sessions are 50 minutes (they cost $138).
All couples start with three initial sessions; an in depth intake, individual one on one sessions with each partner, and a feedback session to create a personalized plan for your therapy journey. After these three sessions, I recommend meeting weekly to build momentum, deepen awareness, and strengthen your connection. The total number of sessions varies based on your unique goals, challenges, and readiness for growth. Throughout therapy, we will regularly check in together to reflect on your progress and adjust the focus and pace to ensure the process feels supportive and meaningful for both of you.
Every couple is different and the goals that we set together will help determine how you feel your relationship is progressing. Progress in couples counselling isn't always linear. Sometimes things feel harder before they feel better - that's often because you're finally addressing what's been avoided or misunderstood for some time. This discomfort is usually a sign that real change is happening.
You might notice small shifts first: a conversation that doesn't escalate, a moment where you truly understand your partner's perspective, or feeling less alone in the relationship. Over time, these moments grow.
We will check in regularly about what's working, what needs adjustment, and whether you're moving toward the relationship you both want. Your goals guide our work together.
Rediscover the partnership you've been missing
No pressure, just possibilities. See how I can support you both.
Your free 20-minute consultation is a no-pressure conversation where we'll talk about what you're facing, answer your questions, and see if we're the right fit. You'll leave with clarity about next steps - whether thats booking your first session or exploring other options.
Book your consultation now and take the first step toward the relationship you both deserve.
